I pride myself on the pure satisfaction I receive from being in control and I strive to provide a satisfactory experience for the both of us...

Nothing is typical in this industry. I have the extremely wealthy to the average Joe, and I enjoy them both. When a client is in my dungeon, it really doesn’t matter to me what they do or who they are in the real world. All of that is left at the door and they get to become something they yearn for and crave, whether it’s to be a masochist, submissive, slave, prisoner, patient, etc. But the common thread is the need to be able to escape the normal day to day. Some people go to spas, amusement parks or the movies, others go to dungeons. I’ve always identified as a dominant woman, long before I was sexually aware, it was just who I was. I believe this was partially due to being raised in a very matriarchal family. When I played house with my classmates I would always make the boy play as the dog instead of the father. While the type of play I typically engage in doesn't involve physical danger, if I were to accidentally transgress, I do absolutely honor limits. I take some time at the start to go over a client’s limits, then monitor them closely throughout the scene.Her line of work may be racy — but nothing sexual takes place between her and her clients, Barbosa said. Londoners have kink on their cornflakes these days. Post-‘Fifty Shades of Grey’, you can unabashedly read saucy literature on the tube, buy spanking equipment on the high street and introduce a bit of BDSM (that’s bondage, discipline and sadomasochism for the few of you who aren’t reading this through a gimp mask) into your suburban bedroom.

I'm going to keep that between me and him. And besides, in many ways, a private jet is more of a burden than a gift. The strangest ones are the ones who ask for the most unexpected things. What's weird to me is not necessarily weird to the vanilla bystander, but my strangest session by far ended up with me writing two comparative essays for the sub. The variety is what keeps things interesting. I have a gentleman who’s into ladies’ watches, and one who’s into clogs. One guy likes to be asked Trivial Pursuit questions and be punished when he gets them wrong. Women often complain that men have no imagination, but they should see what goes on in my dungeon. What’s with the letters? It’s simple. Clients can’t always talk comfortably about their sessions. They clam up when I ask what sort of whip or dildo they want me to use. So, I started encouraging them to write a description of their ideal visit to me beforehand. There is no typical client. I see couples, women, CEOs, Uber drivers, married guys, virgins. There’s the client who saves up for six months to have a session that means the world to him and the client who just needs a thrill on his lunch break. It runs the gamut.

A professional dominatrix is skilled at applying the right kind of pain that can make her masochistic, submissive client cry out in pleasure. There’s a common misconception that BDSM is always about pain, but it’s really about the sensations. You might be surprised to learn that a profession technically classified as “sex work” does not involve any actual sex. Sure, you can go online and find someone who will gladly take your money, slap you around a bit and then have sex with you—but that’s not a service provided by a dominatrix. A truly professional and experienced dominatrix is more like a guide through the less accessible sexual pleasure that some men—and women—find in the acts of submission or masochism, both in and out of a dungeon. This is why most sessions with a pro-domme (professional dominatrix) are carefully thought out and planned beforehand by the mistress to make sure they are uniquely tailored to, and enjoyed by, each particular sub. Someone came to me and wanted to do an interrogation scene in which they would be tortured to get the information out of them. His fantasy was to refuse and be blindfolded and shot! He was surprised when I agreed. We did the interrogation scene and I finally told him he would be executed if he did not tell me what I wanted to know. He wouldn’t, so I put him up on a St. Andrews Cross and shot him with a paintball gun. The red ink splattered on his chest and he loved it. He later shared that he had asked many others, and all refused. Sometimes you have to be inventive and have an open mind to fulfill someone’s fantasy. I love inflicting pain, both physical and mental, and am a sadist through and through. My favorite sorts of play are corporal punishment, medical play, CBT and ballbusting, nipple torture and heavy degradation scenes. I enjoy this sort of play because it draws these insane reactions out of the subs that make the session so memorable. Always approach a mistress respectfully yet honestly and you’ll be fine. Trust she knows what’s best.

They range from the “newbie” who has an interest that's been sparked in him and is curious and seeking a safe person and place to explore all the way to those who've been playing in the arts of BDSM for 20 or 30 years and only want to play with someone who has the experience and knowhow to take them to that special place only an experienced dominatrix can. I hate to lose at Trivial Pursuit, so I’ll pass on the quiz-based spanking, thanks. Re: the ‘dungeon’, that sounds just a tad intimidating. I’m almost afraid to ask, but what could I expect to happen in there? Also, aren’t your clients annoyed at you revealing their secrets?As much as I’d like to leave my poor testicles out of proceedings, I’m at least reassured that my balls would be in safe hands (or should be that feet?) I’m wondering, though, there must be rules – for clients and for you, personally? Where do you draw the line? As a woman who demands respect and full attention I expect the same from you when you get the chance to visit with me.