I took my kids and left cheater ex because he said he was thinking about killing all of us, himself included. However, I am convinced in hindsight that what my fw was actually doing in his diseased mind, was confessing to me to clear his own conscience.

Unless you are absolutely OK with L’s actions (and I would hope that you aren’t), then you need to drop her as a friend.Four years later, I can be struck by an episode of rage or just wanting to go to sleep and not wake up because pain flares. Now it’s time to be this better person by advising your friend that her choice of actions is contrary to your values and character because hurting others with lies, deception and betrayal will harm others and cause destruction to many lives. That’s exactly why I didn’t go through with suicide either one night after I realized my ex would not stop cheating. I responded: “I wish I could fully verbalize the anguish of being betrayed by my husband, my friend, and then…by my community. But I understand that a lot of people, even loving mothers, lose the struggle after they are treated so horribly by someone they are intimate with.

After your own experience with a cheater, aren’t you tied of being told what you NEED to do by people who don’t have your emotional and psychological best interests in mind? Cheaters often display emotion when their affairs are discovered, but if you pay attention, it’s usually sympathy for themselves—not the pain they inflicted on you. She is not claiming to determine truth for the entire universe, she is saying that the facts of what happens in a relationship where betrayal occurred/is occurring is important. A friend of nearly 20 years, dropped me because I didn’t respond to his disgusting messages the way she wanted me to. I was blindsided and in shock; she and her husband (S) were married 5 years and were those people you hated for being so happy.And then I wish I would have had someone say that each day the pain will lessen but you MUST go out and live. We can rightly imagine the perceived losses that would keep a victim of sexual harassment or assault quiet. What this account does highlight is yes, tell and hold the cheater accountable immediately; as hard as it may be. Because after experiencing all the cruel, fucked up sadistic shit you mentioned for a long time, I almost did too.

Well fuck, maybe let’s not make the consequences sound more palatable and let it be shocking and horrible instead of sounding kind of nice and ok. Oh, or the revolting man who came up to me IN CHURCH, on CHRISTMAS EVE, IN FRONT OF MY FAMILY and kissed the back of my neck -- by way of greeting, because I'd once worked in his bakery. If anyone out there is in such despair from this to consider suicide… please use the resources listed earlier and know it really does get better! The betrayal I felt when I learned that most of my “friends” not only KNEW about the affair but SUPPORTED my husband and his whore was almost as painful as my husband’s betrayal. That’s no concern of yours dumbfuck, because YOU SAID, SEVERAL TIMES THAT you are no longer in contact with cookiecunt and the point is, ASSHOLE, you LIED to me.He looked at me with this quizzical expression, like I had suddenly started speaking to him in a language that he didn’t know. It was only about a year after D-Day that I realized I had very nearly created this same scenario for FW.