And so I just want to write what is borne out by research. Jesus said that a good tree can’t bear bad fruit, and a bad tree can’t bear good fruit. So we can judge a teaching by its fruit. When we see that something harms, that’s not of Jesus. It occurs to me too that I couldn’t have this ministry UNLESS I had gotten some things wrong. Age-related hormonal drops for both sexes can make bodies less responsive and result in weaker pelvic floor muscles, meaning it takes longer to achieve orgasm. How having more sex can improve your health, mood and even your career Problem: We have sex less often

The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists. FAQ: When sex is painful [internet]. Washington DC: American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists; 2018. [cited 2021 Sep 28]. Available from https://www.acog.org/womens-health/faqs/when-sex-is-painful Alix Fox, sex educator and Durex sex and relationship expert. 9. See your partner through other people's eyesShe highlighted that due to something called “arousal non-concordance”, physical signs of arousal sometimes won’t sync up with mental arousal right away. “If a partner says they’re super turned on, but they’re not lubricated or don’t have an erection, it doesn’t mean they’re not turned on,” she says. Cohen, S. et al. “Does Hugging Provide Stress-Buffering Social Support? A Study of Susceptibility to Upper Respiratory Tract Infection and Illness,” Psychological Science (2015) 26:135. American college of obstetricians and gynecologists. Chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis. FAQ071. Dec 2016. Available from: https://www.acog.org/Patients/FAQs/Chlamydia-Gonorrhea-and-Syphilis

What happens is you teach your brain to notice how beautiful your body already is, which helps to immunize you against all the cultural messages that tell you your body is supposed to be different,” Nagoski says. Great sex is about exploring new things (a “yes, no, maybe” list can help) As bodies and feelings change as you grow older, it's more important than ever to communicate your thoughts, fears, and desires with your partner. Encourage your partner to communicate fully with you, too. Speaking openly about sex may not come easily to you, but improving your communication will help both of you feel closer, and can make sex more pleasurable. Don’t feel bad – honestly, I came to your book after reading a load of other stuff and it was SO much better, the difference was exponential. Ok, so maybe there was some stuff you could have done better – but your ‘bad’ writing was still an awful lot better than most other people’s ‘good’ writing! Long-term desire is built on a foundation of novelty. Otherwise erotic energy will naturally dissipate for most couples. Trying new things is the key to keeping the fire going. 4. Foreplay Should Start Days Beforehand Let it go. As much as you can, use your age and experience to be wise and candid with yourself. Let go of your feelings of inadequacy and let yourself enjoy sex as you age. Know when to seek helpIn recent years, we’ve seen a huge rise in ‘silver singles’ – divorcees in their fifties and above who find themselves out there on the single scene for the first time in decades. The physical transformations your body undergoes as you age also have a major influence on your sexuality. Declining hormone levels and changes in neurological and circulatory functioning may lead to sexual problems such as erectile dysfunction or vaginal pain. The path to satisfying sex as you age is not always smooth. Understanding the problems can be an effective first step to finding solutions. Dekker, A. and G Schmidt. “Patterns of Masturbatory Behavior: Changes from the 1960s to the 1990s,” Journal of Psychology and Human Sexuality (2002) 14:35.