A study quoted by Health.com found that over 70% of women asked described oral sex as 'very pleasurable'. Across films, TV and general sex talk there's a common association between incredible orgasms and oral sex. The assumption being that women find it incredibly easy to orgasm when receiving it, but what if you don't? Public Health England figures last year show almost twice as many people over 45 were diagnosed with STDs than 10 years ago. Chlamydia cases in people aged 45-64 were up 64% from 2011 to 2015, despite falling among 15-24s. Gonorrhoea , syphilis, herpes and warts are also rising in older groups. Increase your activity level. Bumping up your general level of activity will benefit your sex drive by increasing your energy and sense of well-being. It’s taboos like this that the new wave of sex educationalists are seeking to bust. And they might just be succeeding. The relationship lasted only a few months, says Persimmon, who recently got out of another, longer term relationship. She says the relationships taught her a lot about the importance of vulnerability and communication.

You might not be as comfortable with some sexual positions as you once were, but that doesn't mean you need to give up an activity that is pleasurable for you—and miss out on feeling close to your partner. I’m sure the new GGGTGS is even better than the old one. But for this bride, it would have come two years too late – so I’m beyond grateful for the old version! ReplyCondoms have improved in recent years, so Susan suggests trying out a few different types. And if you’re worried you may have already caught something, see your GP – or your local sexual health clinic (visit nhs.uk) for free anonymous testing. Problem: It takes longer to climax In fact, we have over one hundred articles on how to get your game on between the sheets to ensure you — and your partner(s) — are having the best time possible.

Sex in later life may not be the same as it was in your youth—but that doesn't have to be a bad thing. In fact, sex can be more enjoyable than ever. As you find yourself embracing your older identity, you can: Communicate. Talk to your partner, or to a friend or counselor, about your issues, whether they're physical or emotional. Explain the anxieties you are feeling, ask for and accept reassurance, and continue the conversation as things come up. Emotional obstacles. Stress, anxiety, and depression can affect your interest in sex and your ability to become aroused. Psychological changes may even interfere with your ability to connect emotionally with your partner. While we’re on driving, let’s talk about commutes. And cubicles. And computers. And the demands and distractions of our daily lives.If you’re doing something that makes you feel good, it’s only going to add to your life. It’s not going to take away.”

Instead of prescribing to this singular idea of sex, Mourikis suggests adopting a new definition: sex, she stresses, should be “any physical, mental, emotional or spiritual experience that is pleasurable and erotic.”Brotto, L.A. et al. “A Brief Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Behavioral Intervention Improves Sexual Functioning Vs. Wait-List Controls in Women Treated for Gynecologic Cancer,” Gynecologic Oncology (2012) 125:320.

And perhaps that’s why the new midriff matters. It signifies something bigger: we won’t be resurrecting Y2K’s problematic fetishisation of size zero, when jutting bones were pursued as hungrily as the Chloé Paddington bag. Your proof of how far we have come? Those pics of the ever-resplendent Rihanna proudly showing the glorious swell of her baby bump in a twisted Coperni bra top was all the evidence we needed. Discuss new ideas. If you want to try something new, discuss it with your partner, and be open to his or her ideas, too. The senior years—with more time and fewer distractions—can be a time of creativity and passion. So, with that in mind, we thought it was about time we found out which position was the most pleasurable when it comes to oral sex to maximise the pleasure all round. Read full article on the best position for giving and receiving oral sex A good sex life—at any age—involves a lot more than just sex. It's also about intimacy and touch, things anyone can benefit from. Even if you have health problems or physical disabilities, you can engage in intimate acts and benefit from closeness with another person.The path to satisfying sex as you age is not always smooth. Understanding the problems can be an effective first step to finding solutions. I thought originally it would just be swapping the gendered chapters for more on orgasm, but as I read through the book I found that I now talk differently about just about everything–mental load; communication; obligation. So I ended up rewriting pretty much the entire thing!