It is recognizing and accepting the full extent of the damage this person caused, and choosing not to carry it as your own damage anymore. It means you can walk away much faster the next time.” Along with the harsh realities the book covers ways to start healing, the importance of understanding so you can clearly see for the first time. How you will grieve loss and how to get good help for yourself and how you can feel better. I know that healing can be a long journey, often feeling too long but this book will give you hope and clarity. This is where Whole Again kind of lost me. There's a lot of talk about unconditional love, above the need to not judge yourself, about toxic shame dissolving in the light of love. And, I understand that the book is right that external factors cannot solve a problem that comes not just from within, but from the fundamental parts of one's self. No matter how many people tell you that they love you, that you're a good person, that your effort is good and that your work is worthwhile, if you don't believe it you'll always find some reason why those people were lying, or they weren't lying but that was then and this is now, or--perhaps the most insidious--that you've fooled them into thinking you're good even though you're actually terrible. It also makes them vulnerable to more gaslighting, because their defenses have weakened, and the best gaslighting victims are those who doubt themselves.” People pleasers often have no idea what they want, what their needs are, or what their boundaries look like. Everything is just about making sure others are happy. They can view any issue from another person’s perspective, making excuses for others while offering themselves none of the same flexibility.”

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Thendral Veesi Vara Vendum is a short story by Ramanichandran. The protagonist, Venugopala Menon tries to live his life as an ordinary person but it doesn’t work out for him. He gets caught up in the world of crime and violence because he was not able to find another way to live.” Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, founder of A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy(R) (PACT), and author of Wired for Love and We Do: Saying Yes to a Relationship of Depth, True Connection, and Enduring Love Avery Neal, MA, LPC, author of If He’s So Great, Why Do I Feel So Bad?: Recognizing and Overcoming Subtle Abuse As we learn that we’re responsible for our own emotions, we become more comfortable with the idea that others are responsible for their own emotions too. With this mind-set, we can finally relax—and begin to heal.” I’d like to finish by returning to an idea I mentioned near the beginning of this article: read the great books twice. The philosopher Karl Popper explained the benefits nicely, “Anything worth reading is not only worth reading twice, but worth reading again and again. If a book is worthwhile, then you will always be able to make new discoveries in it and find things in it that you didn’t notice before, even though you have read it many times.”You read the same book, but you never read it the same way. As Charles Chu noted, “I always return home to the same few authors. And, no matter how many times I return, I always find they have something new to say.” 6 I. Audiobook: I create a new Evernote file for each book and then type my notes directly into that file as I listen. The problem with shame is that we have absorbed incorrect conclusions about ourselves, based on the past actions or reactions of a trusted loved one. These conclusions tend to be quite intense and persistent, with a nagging voice that they are the ultimate truth, and anything else we tell ourselves is just a lie to make ourselves feel better. If you read this and are still in relationship with a toxic person or persons please run like hell. Please know they won’t change with your love and patience. Your begging and hoping is wasting your life and taking so much away from you. Don’t run, in fact sprint. As far away as you can get. Avoidants use it to stay lost in their imagination, viewing their own healing through the lens of invented characters.

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Ramanichandran is a tamil writer and book author. His books are about his life experiences, stories that he gather from the rural areas of Tamil Nadu. As I read Mastery by George Leonard, I realized that while this book was about the process of improvement, it also shed some light on the connection between genetics and performance.Resentment is the natural reaction to betrayal and pain, so please do not judge yourself for carrying it. The key is discovering what lives behind the resentment. We don’t resent people unless there was a great deal of pain involved. If a random stranger insults you on the sidewalk, you don“t spend months or years ruminating about it. You only do that when you feel hurt or betrayed by someone you love, trust, and care for.

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While reading The Tell-Tale Brain by neuroscientist V.S. Ramachandran, I discovered that one of his key points connected to a previous idea I learned from social work researcher Brené Brown.I feel really nervous about the book coming out, but I hope it can help other people who may have been through similar experiences. Their happiness is short lived as Sara finds hints of a long-buried secret which could separate them. Who is Luca, and what is his connection to Gino? A powerful and moving force for good, Whole Again is grounded in the author's own research and deep, knowing wisdom. Everyone should have this book on their shelf." C-PTSD sufferers who experienced abuse may engage in mental arguments with their abusers long after the abuse has ended. Most people with C-PTSD experienced ongoing abuse from someone (or multiple people) who repeatedly betrayed their trust, and blamed them for this betrayal. They were made the scapegoat of someone else’s shame, which eventually caused them to absorb this shame themselves.” Buy this book even if you just think a connection you have is toxic. Buy it if it’s over and you are broken and feel so alone. Buy it for someone who can’t see what is really happening to them as often when we read things instead of being told it sinks in better. I cannot recommend this book highly enough, even if the trauma was a long time ago. Five stars!